I remember a few years ago being in my mid forties and thinking, ‘this ageing lark, it’s alright you know. I really feel like I’ve come home’. I finally felt like i’d accepted who I was and where I was in life. I was happier in my skin, more confident than I’d ever been, even after a beauty therapist told me that my – beginning to sag jawline was my ‘biggest area of concern’ ? . Although did take a few days for the image of Grannie Pigs wobbly jaw to erase itself from my mind!
Well fuck you beauty industry and fuck societys’ beauty standards! And I promptly released myself from any sense of duty to be a ‘proper woman’ (my own expectations). I decided i would no longer be participating in that particular game and just like that I stopped removing hair and didnt spend a penny inside a beauty salon again. I can’t say I’ve completely given up hair removal, but it no longer feels like a duty to the world to be hair free. I do it when i want to, which is rarely! I can now very confidently rock a skirt with hairs on my legs ?
I’ve not wasted money on a facial a wax or a manicure ever since.
One thing I hadn’t bargained for, was that once I kicked booze in to touch, the feeling of coming home to myself multiplied dramatically and set me on a path of deep deep healing. Sobriety gave me a sense of purpose and direction that I had never experienced in my life before. It is SO much more than not drinking, it is reclaiming yourself, finding your power and grabbing hold of life with both hands. It is healing old hurts, being present and intentional about the choices you make, it is planning for a future and letting go of the old limiting beliefs that held you back.
Making the choice to give up the western world’s favourite drug is a brave choice, it is an act of self love. It is standing up and saying ‘no more!! I am worth so much more than this’. It is showing up for yourself day after day and doing your best, despite how hard it can feel to begin with.
If you are on this journey already, you are brave, you are strong and you are part of the change. You are ahead of the curve. I don’t know how long it will take, 10 years maybe 20… but i firmly believe that ‘i don’t drink’ will one day become the norm and respected as much as, ‘I don’t smoke’.
Keep going you sober warrior!